In my coaching practice, I work with many people who struggle with confidence. It’s a common challenge, yet it affects people in different ways. Some lack confidence in speaking up, stepping into leadership roles, or taking on new challenges. Others feel uncertain about their skills or abilities, holding themselves back from opportunities.
If this sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone. Confidence isn’t something you’re born with— it’s something you build. And the process of building confidence often feels uncomfortable.
One of the biggest misconceptions about confidence is that it should come with a sense of comfort. But confidence is built by pushing through discomfort. Trying something new, like speaking in front of a group, or stepping into the unknown will almost always feel scary at first.
For some, this uncertainty is exciting—a challenge to overcome. But for others, past experiences, upbringing, or negative self-beliefs create mental barriers. Our brains naturally try to protect us from failure or embarrassment by keeping us in our comfort zone. Unfortunately, staying comfortable often means staying stuck.
Here are 3 ways you can build more confidence today:
1) Embrace Discomfort
Confidence doesn’t mean you won’t feel fear—it means acting despite it. You won’t feel 100% ready, and that’s okay. The key is to move forward anyway.
2) Take Small Steps
Think about when you learned to ride a bike. You didn’t hop on and ride perfectly the first time. You wobbled, fell, and maybe even wanted to quit. But with practice and support, you kept going. Confidence works the same way. You gain it by repeatedly stepping outside your comfort zone, even in small ways.
3) Seek Mentorship and Support
Surround yourself with people who have the confidence and skills you admire. Ask questions, observe their mindset, and learn from their experiences. Sometimes, all you need is a small push from someone who believes in you.
If you’re struggling with self-doubt, limiting beliefs, or past experiences holding you back, coaching can help. At Soaring Leadership, we specialize in helping leaders and individuals break through their barriers and become the best version of themselves.
If you’re ready to step out of your comfort zone and grow, let’s talk. Reach out today for a free clarity session, and let’s start building the confidence you need to achieve your goals.